Hey friends!! I am back again with yet another serious topic. Of late, a challenge has been doing rounds on Facebook and Instagram called the #womensupportingwomen challenge. I have also been a part of it and I somehow felt that this is the time when we should openly discuss about it in detail.
Though this a new era with women empowerment, somewhere down the line, even to this day, women are looked down upon for numerous reasons. Mostly women are looked down upon and judged by other ‘women’. I still don’t understand why. Why would you do that to your counterpart? Like what do you get? No, even after asking this question again and again, I’ve failed to get an answer for it.
In the last four months we’ve seen the most unusual thing unfold before us. Did we ever think that one day we will all be stuck inside the house forcefully in the name of lockdown to prevent falling prey to a worst pandemic called COVID19? No.. we never thought something like this was going to happen. Even to this day when you switch on the news channels or read newspapers you end up looking at the figures of people who have died due to this pandemic. This is the time when we should retrospect and give each other the assurance to move on with great guts. But, are we actually doing that? No… are we planning to do that in the near future? The answer to this also is no….
We’ve always had this rat race in life where we’re competing with each other. It’s high time now we stopped and paused to see and feel the actual essence of life. After being stuck at home in the lockdown period one would have realised the importance of going out even if it is for a walk. This lockdown should be a realisation of sorts for everyone. What will you achieve by putting others down?
One thing I’ve noticed and I’m sure all of you will agree with me, women tend to put other women down or always try to find faults. I’ve never understood the logic, believe me. I will ask the same question again, what do you get by doing this? Life is so short and it’s not worth it in spending it putting other people down or comparing them to others and finding their flaws. No human being is perfect and everyone has their flaws. It is always better to support each other.
It is always a norm in our society that no matter how much the girl achieves, various aunties will be there to find out what next! If a girl has successfully completed her studies the next thing will be – Is she going to work or are you going to get her married? I mean are you serious!! It is a person’s personal choice to decide what they want to do. One thing which is very clear is no matter what you do there will always be a ‘what next’ . Don’t ever try to be a people pleaser because there is no end for it. Women are always questioned for their choice of clothes, studies, career, family path, children, etc. once you land a job the next question is your marriage and once you get married the next question is obviously children. So basically women have no freedom whatsoever from bugging questions all their life. The same thing will surely not apply to men, for obvious reasons. And who are the ones who ask such questions, again obviously a bunch of ‘women’. At some point, even they would’ve undergone such interrogation. So why is it that women get pleasure in doing such things!! Is it sadist mentality? Maybe, you never know.
This mentality of ‘women demeaning women’ is not applicable only to one area, it is applicable in all walks of life. Be it a normal household or a workplace, women are always questioned for their choice and will always be questioned unless women decide to get together and support each other, rather than put each other down.
It’s not only limited to the life decisions that are taken but I’ve also seen that even at times when a heinous crime like rape is committed, women themselves pass unwarranted comments like who told her to get out of the house at that hour or who told her to wear such clothes, instead of asking what sort of a monster is he.
Instead of putting your own clan down I urge you to try to uplift each other little bit every day. I’m sure it’s not too much to ask. I’m able to relate to this a lot because I have seen people who have questioned my choices in every step of my life. Are these same people there when you’re actually facing a crisis in life? Let me assure you, they will surely not be there anywhere close to you!
Remember one thing, no matter what you do, you will always be questioned. Today I can proudly say that I never fell prey to any of this in my life and I’ve done everything that I have wanted and at the time when I’ve felt I should, be it my professional course, my marriage or children. There will always be someone out there judging you. Do things at your own pace and own choice.
Be it a mother-daughter, mother in law- daughter in law, sisters, CO-sisters, sisters in law, friends and whatever the relationship, ensure that you stand by your fellow woman strongly and say- just take the plunge, I’m always there as a back up. Do not be the barrier that stops your fellow woman from achieving great heights, instead be the stepping stone so that she can soar heights. Do not be a sadist who laughs at the other’s misery, instead be a tissue that wipes her tears. Do not question anybody’s personal choices, you may not know, but there will surely be a reason for everything; some people may not like sharing their personal matters, so respect their privacy and please give them their space. If they feel like they will surely come to you.
It’s high time now that we as women, stood up for each other, be it in daily domestic matters or any other worldly matters. Unless we give ourselves the required push nothing can happen. We need to do that so as to ensure that no woman in the world cries herself to sleep because you surely don’t deserve it, you deserve much better. Women are compared to goddesses in our country, when that’s the case, would you demean a goddess! From time immemorial women have showed time and again that they can achieve much more than what men can. It’s just that there are a lot of hindrances, one of the biggest ones being women putting other women down instead of uplifting each other.
During these tough pandemic times, let’s take an oath to uplift each other rather than demeaning, be it in our own household or elsewhere. Let’s start from our home, because if there is happiness at home only then can you spread it across the globe.
I know this post was too much of let’s do this and that, but believe me, if we’re do not start it now, when else will we. Let’s show solidarity and make every woman in every household self sufficient and independent. Let’s begin appreciating every small thing a woman does. If we don’t do that then what will we teach our next generation.
Remember one thing God dwells only where women are worshipped. So support each other and create a world where there’s no discrimination. The actual sexual discrimination is happening because we women are creating it by pulling each other down.
Give this blogpost a thought and help one woman you know….
Cheers!!!
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