My Experience at a Government Office – Corruption is still prevalent

imagesHi friends!! I have been really shameless for the past three months (seriously!!!). I have no words. I don’t even want to apologise because I know how it is going to be. It is like a chain. I apologise and promise to blog often and then do not keep up my promise and it goes on and on, without an end. So, I will just get to blogging. I have been wanting to share my experience at a Government Office. It started with the change of phase for the electric meter. On a Monday morning I confidently walked in to the Electricity Office in our area. I was pretty sure that the work will be done in one day, after all it was just a change of phase. Little did I know that there was an elaborate procedure involved.

I first went and enquired for a form for change of phase. From what I understood it was a form of authorisation from the person in whose name the electricity connection is in. The problem started, then. The connection was in my husband’s granddad’s name (he passed away long ago!). We had to first change the name and then proceed for phase conversion. I went and spoke to the help desk guy and told him that I need to change the name. He referred me to some other person and I explained everything in detail to him. I told him that I want to get the connection changed to my father in law’s name. That guy very easily told me, ‘Don’t go for name change, it will take a long time.’

I was surprised and asked him, ‘What should I do then?’.

For which he very coolly replied, ‘Give the form in your granddad’s name only and when some person comes for inspection just tell them that your granddad has gone to the market.’

I was so shocked that I cannot explain it.

I told him, ‘Listen I do not want to take the wrong route and I am not doing anything like forging or telling lies. It’s ok, if it takes a longer time for conversion, but I will go through the proper route only.’

He was taken aback. He said, ‘I will let you know how much it will cost for a change of name’, and went to some counter and spoke to that guy for a long time.

He came back and said that The Change of Name would cost me Seventeen Thousand Rupees.

I was like, ‘WHAT THE HELL?’

I told him, ‘I will check online and get back to you.’

He was again shocked. He was like you have to pay me two to three thousand rupees extra since I have to go to the Head Office and submit the form.

This is when I got really angry. I asked him straight, ‘Doesn’t the Government pay you salary? It is for your work that you are paid and this is your work. I will not pay you anything more than the legal fee.’

He quickly asked me, ‘When will you give me the cheque? I will come over to your place and collect it. Why should you come all the way in this heat?’

I was laughing from inside. I replied, ‘You don’t have to worry about me. I will manage. We will somehow come back here and finish it.’

I just left from there the next second and spoke to my husband about it. He was also shell shocked. On the way back home, I checked online for the actual procedure for change of name. Believe me, the Government website is so good that I actually did not expect it. The total fee was about 7,000 rupees as against the 17,000 he demanded. Above all, you are allowed to set off your security deposit sitting in your credit against the total fee payable. So, I had to pay about 4,000 rupees to get the name changed. The procedure was simple, self – explanatory and convenient. You can do it from your own home. In about fifteen days, the name was changed as well.

What I wish to tell from this post is, corruption is still prevalent. Why is it so? It is because we are encouraging it. We should put our foot down. When we do it a couple of times, then such people will get scared to ask for money the next time. They may not stop, but at least they will think twice before asking.

When I shared my experience with a few people, they point blank told me not to do that. They also told me that I will never be able to get the change done if I go against someone from within the department, but I am proud of my family. All of them supported me and told me to go the right way and not fall prey to such people. I successfully completed the first leg of my work. Now when I go for my next step I am sure that I will come across the same guy at the Department. Come, what may, I will not encourage him, but at the same time I will get my work done without bribing anyone.

I request all of you to say no to Bribing. If you want to have an India of your dream and bring the change, then you need to be the driving force for the change. Only then, you will have all the right to crib about what is not right in your beloved country.

I hope I did not bore you guys to death with this long and serious post.

See you soon.

Till then, cheers!!!


Hey it’s my Mom’s Birthday

IMG_1444Hello friends! I am here with a different post today. I wouldn’t have found another apt day to put up this post. It is my Mom’s birthday today! The moment my mom reads this I’m sure she will re -read it like hundred times to see if it’s true 😊 Yes, like any other mother-daughter duo, we always fight; like always! She tells me something and then I answer back and then it goes on and then she sulks and I sulk and then comes my dad, to intervene and sort it out for us.

As I’m getting older I am realising one thing, I’m becoming more and more like my mom (and believe me, that’s really scary). People who know my mom very well might just laugh at this and say this girl is insane, but yeah, I’m her daughter so I have the right to pull out her negative points and highlight it to her and say, ‘See I’m becoming like you’. I have the liberty to throw tantrums at her because she is my mom; if I don’t do it, who else will do it. I am the only child. I have all her negative stuff but to be frank enough I don not have any positive quality of her (yes, yes I am admitting that you have positive qualities). She is disciplined; she is very clean. Believe me, at 9 in the morning, the kitchen will be sparkling clean, making it look as if she hasn’t prepared any food (while she would have finished cooking for the entire day by 9). She is quick and I’m slow. I’m a clean freak too, but my laziness takes over everything else in the world. She is not lazy at all, but as I mentioned earlier, I am..

My mom might suddenly think, ’what is happening today? Is this my daughter writing this or is it someone else in disguise?’ Yeah, generally, I refuse to praise her, but since today is her day, I thought I would do it.  I am not like my mom by nature. She is very soft in nature, but firm; while I am in no way soft by nature.

Mom, I want to tell you that how much ever we fight, always remember one thing, I will never stop loving you 😊 We might have differences of opinion, but I will never ignore whatever you tell me. After fighting with you I think about whether what you said was right! It is just that I do not want to accept in front of you that you are right.

I can go on writing for ages about you, but I want to keep this post short and sweet for your birthday.

Here’s wishing you a very Happy Birthday. I hope you had a great one. I hope you enjoy this tiny gesture from my side on your birthday. Love you.


Recipe Time – Kidney Beans Salad (Mexican)

IMG_1703 (1)Hello dear friends!! My previous two posts were about our recent trip to Goa. After that I have been wondering what to write about. I have too many ideas running inside my head simultaneously. It has been quite some time since I posted a recipe. So, here I go.. Being South Indians, most of the days we make South Indian food at home. It’s rice and rasam or rice and sambar, accompanied by some bhaji. My husband is very fussy when it comes to food. He has his set likes and come what may, he will not deviate from it. Whatever happens, he will not eat anything that he doesn’t like. Especially, when it is south Indian food. Hence, every night there are tantrums at our place with respect to food. So, the thing is, if I have to get my husband to eat at home, there should be something interesting which can compete with the yummy outside food. One such day, my laziness took a backseat and I decided to try something different for dinner. We always have a stock of pulses and grains at home and I decided to make some different salad, with a Mexican twist (let me be very clear in the beginning itself, this is not a typical Mexican recipe; I just tried my hand at it by adding various things into it).


1 ½ cups Red Kidney Beans (soaked for at least 10 hours and cooked)

1 Capsicum – sliced

1 Onion – sliced

2 Tomatoes – Sliced

1 cup Sweet Corn (cooked)

Garlic – finely chopped – as per your taste

1 tsp Chili Powder

2 tsp Tex Mex Salsalito Taco Seasoning Mix

1 tbsp Oregano

1 Tbsp Parsley

1 tsp Jeera

1 Lime

Salt as per requirement

Water as per requirement

1 tsp Oil


  • Cook the kidney beans in a cooker and keep it aside
  • In a pan, heat oil and add jeera and fry for a minute
  • Add garlic and onions and fry till transparent
  • Add capsicum and fry until the capsicum changes color
  • Add the sliced tomatoes and fry well
  • Add the sweet corn and cook well
  • Add the cooked kidney beans, chili powder, Oregano, Parsley and the Taco Seasoning and mix well
  • Add salt and water as per your requirement
  • Turn off the stove and squeeze a lime into the salad (add lime as per your taste; I used one whole because we love tangy taste)

This turned out to be a proper Mexican Salad because of the Taco Seasoning Mix. This recipe is a good change from the normal food we eat. Why don’t you try it out too?

Get on your toes fast!!!


Adventures of Goaaa – Part 2

IMG_1172Hi friends!! I’m back with the second part of our Goa Adventures. This post is a continuation of my previous post. I had mentioned in my earlier post that if I start writing I will go on and on and probably, not stop. So, here I am, back once again to give you an account of our Goan Adventure. After visiting the beaches, it was time for us to go to a coffee shop to just unwind and relax. The first time we went to Goa with family, we had gone to one of the CCDs (Café Coffee Days) located in Bambolim. We wanted to go to that particular CCD only.  We had been there on our previous two trips as well. We did not want to miss it. We had hired a two- wheeler. It was a good one- hour journey. We started off at 6 pm from our hotel and reached the CCD at around 7 pm. Our ride was through the highway with construction work going on. We had coffee and just chilled there for about an hour. We left the CCD by 8 pm. While we were on our way the vehicle started making weird noises and just stopped on the highway, in the dark, where the construction work was going on in a full-fledged way. We were too petrified. Yes, Goa is very safe that way. We have been going there every year now and people are very nice. However, it is natural to get petrified when you are stuck on the highway at night. It was pitch black and eerie. We pushed the vehicle for a bit and reached some dimly lit area where there was a small poky restaurant. It looked very shady and it was a Bar cum Restaurant. We weren’t very happy, but did we have a choice? The answer is No. We called up our Hotel and checked if they could send us a car to pick us up in a worse- case scenario. They told they would if the bike guy didn’t have any solution. We then called up the bike provider and my husband spoke to him and requested him to send someone to pick us up and he readily agreed. He told us that we would have to wait for some time. We waited and waited and then, we waited… It was close to an hour and no one had come. We had just taken a Coke to drink at that small restaurant. The waiters were just staring at us, as if asking ‘why the hell are you’ll hanging around here if you aren’t eating anything?’. In fact, one of the waiters came up and asked as well. We couldn’t gather any courage to eat there since it was a veg cum non-veg restaurant. At around 9.30 pm the bike guy sent a car. We were so relieved at the sight of seeing the car, but we weren’t aware that we had more in store for us when we sat in the car. The guy drove the car like a mad man. Yeah, those of you who know Mayur well would probably question me. I agree, he drives fast but this guy was a limit. We were just staring glances at each other, sitting in the back seat and after a point it was so much to take that we literally held on to each other for dear life 😊 . At the end of the day, he somehow got us to our hotel safely in one piece (I agree, it should be two pieces because we were two of us). We grabbed something quickly for dinner and headed straight to sleep since it was too much adventure for the day. I am sure all of you will agree with that.

The next day was again a calm day with not much to do. We decided to go to Benaulim Beach which is again located about 15-20 minutes away from our hotel. We parked ourselves in one of the shacks and just sat there viewing the sunset. It was gorgeous. The sunset is ultimately the same but this beach was completely different from the other two. In the sense that the distance between the shore and the sea was very little. While we sat there watching the sunset, we felt as if the sun was super close to us. We decided to leave by 6.45 pm. There were a lot of shops outside. I went and bought some random stuff there and decided to head back to our hotel.

IMG_1264Sunday was the last day for us to visit beaches as we wanted to keep our Monday relaxed and chilled. We decided to go to Agonda Beach on Sunday morning. It was about 1 hour 10 minutes away from our hotel. We decided to leave by 10.30 pm and we did. It was supremely hot outside and both Mayur and I suffered little sunburn. Once we reached the place after about an hour’s ride, we were so relieved. Thankfully for us there was a small restaurant on the shore which had proper shade. I was sure I would otherwise die of heat stroke. We sat there and had something cold to drink and when my husband when on a photography expedition on the beach, I sat writing my story. Most of my story plots are designed when I’m on a holiday. Agonda Beach is a very peaceful beach with few people here and there and the scenic beauty is something which you’d die for. We enjoyed our visit and then left the beach at about 1 pm. We wanted to go to one particular Harmonium Café located near Agonda for lunch, but unfortunately for us, it was shut and they were going to open it only at 3 pm. It did not make any sense for us to wait until 3. So, we decided to go towards Benaulim Beach. A Dominos Pizza Outlet was situated near there. We decided to grab a pizza or lunch and then just go and relax. By the time we reached the hotel it was 5 pm. We just chilled for the rest of the day.

Monday was more or less our last day in Goa, since we were leaving on Tuesday afternoon. We decided that we will chill doing nothing. Believe me, that is also fun! You should also sometimes try doing nothing.

Hope this post and the preceding one helps you plan a nice trip to Goa in the upcoming days.


Adventures of Goaaa…

finalHi friends! I know, it is shocking to see me, time and again updating my blog, right? This time I will chase my laziness miles away from me and write whenever I can. I have promised my hubby that I will take my passion one step above my laziness, so, here I am! 😊 I believe that one must try till the end and not give up. So, I will try and try, until I succeed. Moreover, the Bullet Journal has helped me to a greater extent in planning and organising. It’s been about a week or ten days since I started using it, and believe me it has sorted so many tiny things for me and made my life easier.

IMG_1137This is not the first time I am writing about Goa. I have written about it last year as well. It might not make sense to people who haven’t gone to Goa, but, believe me, once you go and get the hang of the peace and serenity there, you will run back, like how we do. It feels so nice and rejuvenated. We make it a point to go to Goa once a year to unwind. We have found a hotel that is located well away from the crowd, in a residential area, which makes our holiday even more special, because the place is like a home away from home. I have dedicated a post to Jasminn by Mango in my blog. The hospitality at this place is something which I haven’t seen anywhere else.

This time we took a bus to Goa from Mysore. It was a super long journey. What I have to mention here is, one should never take a Paulo Travels bus. We have taken Neeta Travels before; it wasn’t too great, but it wasn’t this bad either! Everything seemed fine until we reached Bangalore. When the bus stopped at Paulo Travels office, they just randomly told us to get off the bus with our luggage and move to another bus. The bus was one size smaller than the previous one and there was lot of confusion with respect to seats, as the seat numbers were different from the ones allotted to us at the time of booking. So, with all the confusion we left Bangalore at say 9.30 pm. They did not stop for dinner until 10.30 pm. When we asked them, they told us they will, after going out of Bangalore City. At about 11.15 pm they stopped for dinner. I am sure, most of you will agree with me, 11.15 at night is not the time to have dinner. Everyone in the bus was angry. They did not stop at any proper place in the morning to freshen up. In fact, at about 7.30 am, when we were about to enter Goa, the guy just randomly said, ‘there is an open space for bathroom, whoever wants to go can go.’ Are you serious? You are asking a bus full of people especially women to go to an open area. I thought, they might be kidding, but unfortunately, they weren’t. I am going to report this anyways 😊 Somehow, we managed to reach by 10 am.

IMG_1184Apart from the great bus adventure, we had more adventures waiting for us. We wanted to relax completely on the first day. We wanted to take it easy. So, we randomly sprawled around trying to recover from the lonnnnnngggggggggg bus journey. The hotel has a shuttle to the beach every hour. After relaxing and making up for the lost sleep, we went to the beach in the shuttle at 5pm. The last shuttle back to the hotel was at 6pm. The shuttle was to the Betalbatim Beach. We did not want to be bound by the short time frame. So, we decided to walk back. It was a good half an hour walk. We spent about two hours in the beach. While Mayur went around clicking pictures of the beautiful sunset, I sat in one of the shacks and wrote. Probably, one of my stories coming up will have the plot I outlined in Goa. We left the beach at around 7 pm. I guess, it was a little late. Though, it is that way very safe in Goa, we were scared. The main thing that freaks you out there is that the roads are pitch black. No lights at all. Though it was a scary walk, we enjoyed it. I freak out faster than Mayur. I guess, it is natural. Being a girl and seeing how things are nowadays, I scared Mayur as well. After we reached safely we thought about the entire thing and laughed out loudly.

IMG_1178After an adventurous evening we wound up our day with a relaxed candle light dinner. The next day we decided to take it easy in the morning as well because it was too hot outside. We decided to go later in the evening. We had heard about the Sunset Beach before. We always thought all the beaches located near Betalbatim Beach are famous for sunset. We were, however, wrong. We realised on this visit that there is a beach called Sunset Beach, which is located next to Benaulim Beach. As I stated earlier, all these beaches are located next to each other. The Sunset Beach had a beauty of its own. It was very calm and silent. The sand was silvery and soft. It was absolutely empty. There were people, but on the other side. The side from which we got in, there was absolutely nothing. We loved it to the core. We walked in the water, hand in hand and just enjoyed the tranquillity and peace. It is at this beach that my husband clicked the picture of sunset through my eye! You can find that picture on his Instagram account . From there we went to Dominos for Dinner.

Both the beaches which I mentioned above, Betalbatim and Sunset are located near the hotel. The sunset is the same at both these places, since the beaches are located near each other. Betalbatim Beach has a lot of people especially foreigners, but Sunset Beach is quiet and has very few people. If you want a silent, be to yourself beach then Sunset Beach is the one.

If I continue writing, I might end up writing a book. So, I will stop it at this and get back with another post in two days summing up our Goa Adventures. Hope you enjoy reading this.


Note: I hold the Copyright to all the pictures published here.. The eye picture is clicked by Mayur and the rest are captured by me!